Tips for a Trauma-Informed Halloween from a Child Therapist

October is my favorite month of the year. I live in the northeast and watching the leaves turn colors and fall to the ground ignites creativity in me. I get the urge to paint, draw, decorate, light candles, and revel in the autumn sights and smells. It also happens to be the month my daughter was born, and I think that is NO coincidence. The other day as I was marveling at the trees on our ride to school she said “Mom, stop being so delighted by the trees,” and it made me laugh a little to think that she finds my obsession annoying, but also happy that she gets to witness my awe at nature. I hope it’s something that I pass down to her. Fall is also a season of grief, a time when we say goodbye to the warmth of the sun, goodbye to the leaves, flowers and colors of nature until next year. It is a time to turn inward and notice any grief that might be weighing on us or our children.

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Halloween Can Trigger Traumatic Memories and Feelings

Halloween is a beloved holiday of mine, but for some children (and adults) it can be very triggering. For children that have witnessed violence or death the images and costumes involved with Halloween can trigger those memories pushing them into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn behavior.

Fake blood, scars, stitches, tombstones, among other things, can remind children about the traumas they’ve experienced. Scary figures lurking around in the dark can make a child feel unsafe and hypervigilant.

In addition, internal feelings of fear or anxiety, like a fast heart rate, can also remind children how they felt during the traumatic event, which can trigger involuntary trauma responses such as aggression, crying, nightmares, and difficulty concentrating at school.

Trauma lives in our bodily emotions, not just in our memories.

How to Create a Trauma-Informed Halloween:

I know that for most people Halloween is a fun celebration, but we can have fun while also being mindful of how neurodivergent children are impacted by ghosts, goblins, witches, and zombies. Of course we can’t shield our children from exposure to all scary things, but we can always try to do our best to prevent re-traumatization.

This Halloween put on your “trauma lens” and notice how your child reacts to costumes and decorations. This attention to detail could prevent additional suffering for a child you love.

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